Resilience is Contagious

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By Wael Abdelgawad | IslamicSunrays.com

“Resilience is contagious.” – Amy Estrada. Sure, life comes along now and then and blows you off your feet. That’s alright. What matters is that you get back up.

You don’t have to have the answers. You don’t have to be superman or superwoman. When the thundercloud opens up, who among us can stop the rain? When the hurricane blows, who can stay on his feet? No one.

When the storm passes, stand up. Dust yourself off, take stock, and move forward in the name of Allah. If the storm has disoriented you and you don’t see the way forward, look to the Quran. “And if there should come to you guidance from Me – then whoever follows My guidance will neither go astray [in the world] nor suffer [in the Hereafter].” (Quran, Surat TaHa, 20:123). The Quran is a mighty book. Never underestimate it. If you cannot speak Arabic and find the English translations unwieldy, get one of the modern translations that are easier to read, like those by Umm Muhammad, or Thomas Cleary.

When you get knocked down and then stand up tall, with strength, others see it, and it rallies them. Your spouse sees it, your children see it, your friends see it, and of course Allah sees it. Don’t think of it as showing off. Not at all. Think of it as brotherhood and sisterhood, all of us helping each other, giving each other strength, being good shepherds to our flocks.

Superman is no hero, he’s impervious to bullets! Real heroes get hurt, they get down on themselves sometimes, they’re imperfect, they struggle to pay the bills and raise their children, they struggle to be become stronger in their faith, but they struggle! They don’t give up.

That’s inspiring, and it’s contagious, and maybe sometimes it will be someone else inspiring you, and maybe sometimes it will be you, getting up after the hurricane, showing us all how it’s done.

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Wael Abdelgawad is an Egyptian-American living in Fresno, California. He is the founder of several Islamic websites, including Zawaj.com and IslamicAnswers.com, and also of various technology and travel websites. He is a writer and poet, and has been a web developer since 1997. This project, IslamicSunrays.com, is very dear to his heart, as it has allowed him to express ideas that have growing inside him for many years. Wael is divorced and has one lovely young daughter. He practices and teaches martial arts (somewhat obsessively), and loves Islamic books, science fiction, and vanilla fudge ice cream. Wael is an advocate for human rights and blogs about these issues at AbolishTorture.com. He is also a volunteer with the MyDeen Muslim youth organization in Fresno. Wael tagged this post with: , , , , , , Read 265 articles by
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  1. Amy says:

    Masha’Allah, Masha’Allah. I love that ayat, so glad you added it. (still smiling!!)

  2. María says:

    As salamu alaykum,

    Since last year, this term/concept has been around me, due to different circumstances. When I first knew about it, I asked, what is it? and this is the meaning found on Wikipedia:

    “”””””Resilience in psychology refers to the idea of an individual’s tendency to cope with stress and adversity. This coping may result in the individual “bouncing back” to a previous state of normal functioning, or using the experience of exposure to adversity to produce a “steeling effect” and function better than expected”””””

    Life itself train us, to many of us since we are conceived to deal with “stones on the Path” some are just like sand others are like the Everest, and this is within Life, I cannot conceive a life without obstacles because thanks to it, we strive to our best, we get to know us and everyone around us in a way that wouldn´t be discovered in any other way.

    Everyone´s Life is a miracle, we are just conscious of a little percentage of what really happens in our Life, but if we were going to record all that is going on all the time in our daily life, we will be surprised of the huge amount of ocasions where we are saved miraculously or we saved someone miraculously, by thought, word or act, …then from that litle that we are conscious, if we try our best, at least, we are, insha´Allah, assuring that when we step on a stone that if once was an Everest maybe now after our struggles it has become a humble mountain that maybe has on it a nice current of water that is eroding it to become a gentle pebble that with time will become light dust. But to get this we have to learn to be humble in front of the big Everest and show our respect to it, and step by step begin to climb it until God considers we have learnt the lesson that was prepared for us and like this for everything.

    All of us has different ways to deal with struggles, depending on many, many factors and it is the responsibility of those of us that are conscious of what it is, to help others to learn how to do it. This is one way to pass the test with a “B” or maybe an “A” instead of “C” that will show that it is done, but not done in its best.

    Reading in Wikipedia, mentions that Resilience it is a process and takes time, certainly takes time,

    ….time to face the obstacle, when I say : “Bi-smi-ll?hi r-ra?m?ni r-ra??m, Al-?amdu li-ll?hi rabbi l-`?lam?n”, (In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds.)

    ….time to go through it, when I say: “Ar ra?m?ni r-ra??m, M?liki yawmi d-d?n, Iyy?ka na`budu wa-iyy?ka nasta`?n, Ihdin? ?-?ir??a l-mustaq?m,?ir??a l-lad?na an`amta `alay-him gayri l-mag??bi `alay-him wa-l? ?-???l?n “, (The Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful. The Lord of the Day of Judgement. Thee alone do we worship and Thee alone we seek for help. Guide us to the Right Path. The path of those upon whom Thou has bestowed favors, Not of those who Thou has cursed once nor of those who have gone astray).

    ….time to finish it, time to digest it, time to asssimilate it and there is a time where I just say, I have gone through it with all the atoms of my body, now I have in my cells the experience and the lesson I have learnt and I am able to say from the bottom of my Heart: “Al-?amdu li-ll?hi rabbi l-`?lam?n” Amin.(All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. Amin)

    Quran 1:1 “Al-Fatihah”

    The Peace that emanates from the certainty that only God can guide us to overcome obstacles can be appreciated by everyone around and it is a blessing that we have to work every now to be ready, when struggles come around, to deal with them.

    This life, this world, this body, everyone around us, all of them are just there tuned in a perfect symphony to help us to be our best, then Thank God for all of them.

    Then, insha´Allah, let´s go for our best in every now.

  3. Anonymous says:

    Chapter (5) S?rat l-M?idah (Verse (5:6)
    Allah does not intend to make difficulty for you, but He intends to purify you and complete His favor upon you that you may be grateful.

    Then why are we suffering since 23 years… I do no want to be unthankful, nor sound ungrateful to Allah (Allah forbid, and may Allah forgive me, Ameen), but somehow I am unable to pass test that life has in-store for me. I’m struggling since my teens, solely supporting my family, on my toes without any break, obey Allah commands, and Nabi Pak (SAW) teachings; kept my hopes high, prayed and prayed and prayed, and waited patiently for something good to happen. But last year September 6, 2011, a news traumatized and shattered me to the extent that I am unable to pick myself up. Life is suffocating… Same goes for my family, they have been suffering for the same period of time (23 years)… and the test doesn’t end…

    Perhaps someone’s Dua (reading my comment here) will bring peace in my (and my family’s) life. InshaAllah, Ameen.

    The Prophet (SAW) said:
    Whenever you make a supplication for another believer and he is not present, an angel will say ‘and same to you.’

    May Allah bless you all, Ameen.

    • María says:

      As salamu alaykum, Anonymous,

      You begin your comment with a beautiful ayah, I would like to share with you the following Surah Al-Baqara, ayah 186: “2:186 When My servants ask thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calleth on Me: Let them also, with a will, Listen to My call, and believe in Me: That they may walk in the right way. ”

      Volume 9, Book 93, Number 484:
      Narrated Abu Musa:

      We were with the Prophet on a journey, and whenever we ascended a high place, we used to say, “Allahu Akbar.” The Prophet said, “Don’t trouble yourselves too much! You are not calling a deaf or an absent person, but you are calling One Who Hears, Sees, and is very near.” Then he came to me while I was saying in my heart, “La hawla wala quwwatta illa billah (There is neither might nor power but with Allah).” He said, to me, “O ‘Abdullah bin Qais! Say, ‘La hawla wala quwwata illa billah (There is neither might nor power but with Allah), for it is one of the treasures of Paradise.” Or said, “Shall I tell you of it?”

      Bukhari :: Book 9 :: Volume 93 :: Hadith 482
      Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas:

      The Prophet used to invoke Allah at night, saying, “O Allah: All the Praises are for You: You are the Lord of the Heavens and the Earth. All the Praises are for You; You are the Maintainer of the Heaven and the Earth and whatever is in them. All the Praises are for You; You are the Light of the Heavens and the Earth. Your Word is the Truth, and Your Promise is the Truth, and the Meeting with You is the Truth, and Paradise is the Truth, and the (Hell) Fire is the Truth, and the Hour is the Truth. O Allah! I surrender myself to You, and I believe in You and I depend upon You, and I repent to You and with You (Your evidences) I stand against my opponents, and to you I leave the judgment (for those who refuse my message). O Allah! Forgive me my sins that I did in the past or will do in the future, and also the sins I did in secret or in public. You are my only God (Whom I worship) and there is no other God for me (i.e. I worship none but You).”

      Insha´Allah, I will have you and your family in my prayers today.

      May Allah(swt) guide us all to and in the Straight Path. Ameen.

      • María says:

        “… Only in the remembrance of Allah can the heart find peace.” (Qur’an, 13:28)

        “O Believers, seek help in patience and in the ritual prayer. Allah is with those that are patient.” [Al-Qur’an 2:154]

        Surely, you know more about the Quran than me, thank you for guiding me to It, once again.

        Wasalam

  4. Anonymous says:

    JazaakAllah Maria,

    I cannot thank you enough. May Allah bless you, keep you happy, healthy, in peace, in His protection, and grant you lots of love in your life, Ameen.

    Your comments brought tears to my eyes. JazaakAllah for sharing all those beautiful verses with me. Indeed it brings peace in one’s heart.

    My heartfelt thanks to Wael Abdelgawad for providing me (/us) this platform to express. May Allah bless him and keep his faith strong to guide us (and bring peace in our lives), Ameen.

    Thank you again, and JazaakAllah for your prayers.
    With blessings and sincere gratitude.

    • María says:

      As salamu alaykum, Anonymous,

      JazaakAllah, your words touch my Heart,…I am grateful with all my Heart to you for reading the verses, listening and wishing me so much good, someway without being conscious of it; you, Alhamdulillah, have opened our Hearts to the good that, insha´Allah, we can receive.

      The Peace found in the middle of the struggle is a blessing given by Him(swt), keep as many memories of this (Peace) plenitude/emptyness of the Heart as you can, insha´Allah it will bring with It, the wisdom necessary to accept, understand and keep climbing/walking/running/waiting or whatever we have to do in our daily life to get closer to Him(swt); insha´Allah, everyday a bit more.

      Masha´Allah, you have a straight, sweet, full of gratitude, loving vibration that with time, insha´Allah, will be peaceful, straight, wise, full of gratitude, sweet, loving vibration.

      Thank you, thank you, thank you.

      Allah(swt)knows best. All the Praises to Him(swt).

      Wasalam,
      María

  5. Anonymous says:

    JazaakAllah Maria,

    Don’t know how many times, I read your messages.
    I humbly thank you for your support.

    Please keep me in your prayers, need them a lot.

    With blessings.

    • María says:

      As salamu alaykum, Anonymous,

      All Praises to Allah(swt).

      Insha´Allah, I will keep you and your family in my prayers while Allah(swt) wants it.

      May Allah(swt) bless you and your family with what is the best for all of you. Ameen.

      Wasalam,
      María

  6. María says:

    Just to share a bit more.

    I was thinking about the depth of your sorrow and how affect to someone that needs support knowing that somewhere in the world there is someone that by Allah(swt)´s will cares about you and your family, …Allah´s (swt) ways are mysterious and only Him(swt) knows all.

    After my last comment, I felt that I couldn´t leave you like that, that if we had met it was because we have something to learn from each other, something that will help us to keep going and will bring Peace to our Hearts,… After thinking about your last comment, I had the need of reading the Quran and finding a message for both of us, I listened to this call and I looked into it, I read Surah 41 and this one took me to Surah 17, I got these ayahs from them, insha´Allah, you will understand what I understood.

    Surah 41,

    “(37. And from among His signs are the night and the day, and the sun and the moon. Do not prostrate yourselves to the sun nor to the moon, but prostrate yourselves to Allah Who created them, if you worship Him.) (38. But if they are too proud, then there are those who are with your Lord glorify Him night and day, and never are they tired.) (39. And among His signs; that you see the earth barren, but when We send down water to it, it is stirred to life and growth. Verily, He Who gives it life, surely is able to give life to the dead. Indeed He is Able to do all things.)”

    “(44. And if We had sent this as a Qur’an in a foreign language, they would have said: “Why are not its verses explained in detail What! Not in Arabic nor an Arab” Say: “It is for those who believe, a guide and a cure. And as for those who disbelieve, there is heaviness in their ears, and it is blindness for them. They are called from a place far away.”)

    And Surah 17:

    “(And We send down of the Qur’an that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe, and it increases the wrongdoers nothing but loss.) “(17:82).

    I am very thankful to you, once again you have guided me closer to Him(swt), Alhamdulillah.

    Believe in Him(swt) with all the atoms of your body and ask Him(swt) to bless you with the faith, the guidance, the gratitude and the patiente to pass the test, your vibration guides me closer to Him(swt), your vibration pushes me toward Him(swt), with this I mean, you just have to surrender every moment you can, as consciously as you can to Him(swt) with all the atoms of your body in the silence of your own Heart and, insha´Allah, when you least expect you will find what you are looking for, I remark, when you least expect because only Allah(swt) knows all and only Him knows when and how. Trust Him(swt) with all your Heart and believe He(swt) had chosen the best path to make your Heart shine as its best, masha´Allah.

    Allah(swt) knows best.

    Wasalam,
    María

  7. Anonymous says:

    Wa Alaikum As Salaam Maria,

    JazaakAllah for all your support.

    What I understood from all above, is to hold on to Allah, and He will provide miracles from the unseen. Indeed and indeed, there is none other than Allah, Alhumdulillah.

    I pray that Allah always keep us on the right path, and that we never deviate from our core belief, Ameen.

    I don’t know how I helped/guided you towards getting more closer to Allah, but am glad for you.
    I pray that you stay happy, healthy, protected and loved, Ameen.

    Stay blessed.

    • María says:

      Your words expressed it beautifully, masha´Allah.

      JazakaAllah for your prayers and gratitude, to answer you that together with mentioning the Quran(5:6) in your first comment have been my help, guidance and blessing.

      Ameen to your prayers.

      All my unconditional love and respect to your family and you.

      Wasalam,
      María

  8. Anonymous says:

    As Salaamu Alaikum Maria,

    Can I contact you here if I have something to share?
    I think (of you) and pray for you everyday.

    JazaakAllah for listening…

    With blessings.

    • María says:

      Walaykum as salam, Anonymous,

      Share as you did in your first comment and be open to whoever has something to share with you, only Allah(swt) knows all and best.

      JazaakAllah for your prayers.

      Wasalam,
      María

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